The Archangels Tell Us How
I still feel a whole lot of anger in the collective energy out there, and it concerns me. We need to find a way to narrow some of the gaps that divide us and release the anger so many of us have for each other. It’s so easy to judge people we don’t know, but the fact is just that, we don’t know them. Others’ actions and words can be aggravating, even alarming, but the Angels remind us often that labels, stereotypes, judgment, and condemnation of others, many we’ve never even met, is counterproductive to the point of being harmful.
Obviously, releasing low vibrational emotions like fear, anger, etc. is easier said than done, so I asked the Archangels to give us some pointers. Their advice follows.
Question: How do we let go of the anger and disappointment leftover after something upsets us?
Answer:
We know this is difficult for many of you, and what we will advise is also difficult, because it involves logic, rather than emotions, and most of you are emotionally driven. For the emotionally driven person, emotions are automatic and effortless, while logic takes more effort and focus.
Before we start, we wish to say that most emotional responses and reactions are completely understandable and, in many cases, absolutely justified. We do not propose that you are not entitled to them or that you should reject or avoid them. By all means allow yourself to feel them. If you do not, the energy they carry will remain, and it will bother you. However, if you cling to them, feed their energy, and do not attempt to process them and eventually release them, they can affect your everyday life in many disturbing ways.
Emotions like fear, anger, and resentment do not feel good. Again, this does not suggest that they are not justified, but they do not have a positive effect on you personally, never mind at whom they are directed. So, the process of releasing them begins with how they make you feel, not whether or not you have good reason to feel them.
Emotions can affect you physically, mentally, and spiritually, and when it comes to low vibrational emotions, they affect all these areas negatively. These effects may include rises in heart rate, blood pressure, respiratory, digestive, and muscular functions on a physical level, anxiety, stress, and depression on a mental level, and a severe loss of joy, hope, love, and peace on a spiritual level. None of these things are enjoyable.
So, the question becomes, if these emotions trigger so many negative reactions on all levels, does it not make sense that it is in your best interests to release them and restore your health? The toll it takes on your body, mind, and spirit in no way adversely affects the source of your angst, so it is not as though becoming and remaining upset achieves anything helpful, whereas if your health and outlook are restored, you might be more able to act in ways that correct problems or further your causes, rather than crippling those more effective actions by sustaining the upset.
Next, consider whether or not there is something actively more productive or concretely more effective regarding the source of your emotions. If you are dealing with a person or a cause of some kind, can you reach a compromise or find common ground? If neither of those things are attainable, can you put distance between you and the source of your angst? If it is a person, can you avoid them? If it is an outcome of some sort, how can you counter it?
Ask yourself if there is anything you can do to reverse or change whatever it is that is upsetting you. If there is, and you are able, then do it, but if it is not within your power to affect it, it is illogical to hold onto the anxiety it invokes, as you cannot change it. Instead, focus on self-care to reduce its effects. Bring more joy into your life to restore balance.
The absolute best weapon in your arsenal against upsetting emotions caused by people is compassion. Before you throw up your hands and give us the evil eye, exclaiming that some people are undeserving of compassion, we bid you to STOP and reconsider. You cannot know what drives a person to do what they do, make their choices, or react as they do, any more than they can know what drives you. In your world and in your view, their choices and actions may seem unacceptable, but in their world and their view, their choices fit their situation and circumstances, we guarantee you, or they would never have behaved in that way.
It is illogical to believe that people act and make choices in ways they believe will adversely affect them, unless their intent is to become a martyr, and that does not happen very often these days. Therefore, either their needs differ from yours, or they do not see the situation from your point of view. If you set aside the emotions their dissention provokes in you, it is easier to see that they believe they are acting in their best interests and although it may feel personally directed toward you, it is not. They are simply doing the best they can, based on their background and the information they have. Is that not what everyone does?
It is human nature to try to improve the situation in which you find yourself. Whether or not you share the same perspective or the information you and they have is correct remains to be seen, but in the end, everyone does the best they can, making the best choices they can, based on their needs and the information they have. While ignorance, deceit, and manipulation often play a role in decision making, the person who has been targeted by these things is usually unaware of them, and again, they may choose badly, but it is, in their view, what is best for them, and it is not aimed against you, even if you suffer for those choices.
Let us speak a bit more about taking things personally. Again, if you remove the layers of emotion, can you see that when someone disagrees with you about something, it is not usually meant against you personally. The idea that, “if you are not with me, you are against me,” is misleading and, in most cases, not true. When people disagree, it usually has nothing to do with personal vendettas. It is simply a difference of opinion or a conflict of interest, so when sides are chosen, you do not have to be enemies. Opposition exists, perhaps, but there does not have to be hatred and anger between you.
Lastly, when there is conflict, there is almost always lack of understanding and communication on both sides. When you complain about people who disagree with you, and you proclaim that they do not understand, the chances are great that you lack understanding, as well as those on the other side. If you cannot understand those who oppose you, and you are unwilling to try, refrain from assuming the worst about them. A lack of understanding is your shortcoming, not theirs. They may not understand you, either, which is their weakness, not yours. If you are unwilling or unable to gain understanding, do not assume the worst about them. Just acknowledge that there is a gap of comprehension where they are concerned.
You all must endeavor to reach a point where you respect each other’s differences, accept that everyone has the right to make personal choices, whether they resonate with you, or not, that no one should control or force others to comply with their demands and viewpoints, and that everyone is worthy and of equal value. This is the way toward peace on Earth.
When there is disagreement about something, try to set aside emotions, try not to take the disagreement as a personal affront, and remember that most people act on their own behalf, not against you personally. Do not make assumptions about them, their background, their character, or what motivates them. You do not know them any better than they know you.
There will be times you experience anger, fear, resentment, and disappointment, but that does not mean you should find a target at which to aim. Acknowledge, process, and release these emotional energies on your own or with the help of others, but leave the blame and accusation out of it. You are responsible for your emotions and no one else. Remember that all people, including you, do the best they can in any given situation, using the knowledge and experience they possess. It may be erroneous in part, but it is what they know.
Their needs and motivation may differ from yours, and their actions may be unacceptable to you, but they are just as entitled to make their choices as you are, and although you may choose to judge and oppose their choices, you should not condemn them and assume they are your enemies. Try to find common ground and compromise, try to understand them better, try to find compassion for them, but do not feed the hatred, fear, and anger so common to conflict, for not only does it not help the situation, it hurts you and makes the situation worse in every case. That is to no one’s advantage, including yours.
Final Thoughts
We can’t escape anger entirely, but we can decide not to wallow in it, whether we are justified in our anger, or not. But … “He makes me so mad!” “I can’t believe she did that!” “How dare they!” While all may be valid in some way, while all may act as a trigger for our anger, they don’t, or at least they shouldn’t control us. Do you really want to relinquish your control over your emotions and actions to someone else? Yet, when we hold on to our anger, that’s exactly what we are doing.
The nation and much of the world is divided right now. Everyone has their own reasons for making the choices they do, and the only ones we truly understand are our own choices, and sometimes, not even those. If we’re not in a place where we’re ready to try to understand, forgive, or mend bridges, that’s okay, but all of us need to at least try to release ourselves from the emotional upheaval and burden we’re carrying and trying to process.
Begin by taking care of yourself and doing things that bring more joy into your life. Rather than focusing on your misery, focus on gratitude. Instead of concentrating on possible threats in the future that may or may not occur, remember that you have survived to this point, and you will continue to overcome whatever adversity you may face. Once that has a positive effect, perhaps it’s time we acknowledge that we don’t understand the people or actions that triggered our anger. We need to release stereotypes and assumptions and at least consider that there may be more to the story than is obvious. We may never understand where someone is coming from, but we can at least acknowledge that there is a lack of understanding involved.
So many people are still upset about the election results, and as more plans and cabinet member nominations are released, there is plenty more to find upsetting for many of us, but those things are out of our control, so rather than feed our anger and fear, we need to find ways to practice more self-care and remind ourselves that we have the power and the tenacity to overcome whatever we may face. There’s no sense in dwelling on or feeding a low vibrational emotional response. That will help nothing, and it will hurt us, not those with whom we are upset.
I hope you’ll join me in working toward feeling better and rejecting anger, fear, etc., so we can make more room for joy, hope, love, and peace. The world can be falling apart around us, and we can still nurture those higher emotions internally and make our own space where we can retreat from the chaos. We can make our own internal oasis.
Blessings, all.
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